Assertive vs Passive functions and their resulting tolerance to alternate constructions.

Samuel Hicks' Contribution

Malleability (Assertive/Passive) of a function and tolerance to differing constructs.

Assertive functions are understood to be indelibly true while passive functions are understood to be malleable by our own standards. I thought it stands to reason, then, that you could excuse other peoples behaviors based in one of your assertive functions while becoming angry at people for breaches of passive function principle or construct.

• Assertive T --> "I guess his Ti just picked that up somewhere and that's how he does it now." (your reaction about your dads steak broiling method)

• Passive T --> "Are you kidding me? That's the most stupid thing I've ever heard of and I want to die now." (my reaction about your dads steak broiling method) Both heavily paraphrased lol.

• Assertive F --> "I don't know, it can be a little weird, but just let them do what they're gonna do." (my reaction to furry's)

• Passive F --> "Let me not even get started on this because of how much I hate their desire to do that." (your reaction to furry's)

Malleability of a function appears to influence a person's knee-jerk reaction to differing opinions or constructs. This can be managed with cognitive effort however it does not appear to be "fixable".

Notes from Sam:

"I think the reasoning there is we expect other people to be able to change their passive constructs in the same way we can since we don't regard those as especially important "That's wrong, just change it. It shouldn't be hard to change it; you're just being stubborn."

Assertive functions are less malleable so they are less forgiving of people breaking the rules as it affects you and your behavior/interactions. However differing opinions don't matter as long as your use of your Assertive function is not affected.

When our Assertive Functions are not affected it becomes "Live and let live".